The Head, the Heart and the Owner of the House

"I have to finish this today." — "But I feel like going to the beach." — Sound familiar? That's not you against yourself. Those are two tenants living inside you. And there's a third.

Three Figures, One House

Trilotherapy — a method developed by Nissim Amon, an Israeli Zen master who trained for years in monasteries in the East — identifies three figures operating in each of us:

• The Head — the rational voice. Knows what you "should" do, what's "right," what's "responsible." Speaks in lists and tasks.
• The Heart — the feeling voice. Knows what you "feel like," what's pleasant and what hurts. Speaks in body and sensations.
• The Middle — the "owner of the house," the true self. The one who hears the thoughts and feels the emotions. The inner parent who is supposed to lead — but in most of us, is asleep.

Where the Suffering Comes From

According to the method, most of our discomfort doesn't come from outside — it's born in the gap and tension between the Head and the Heart. When the Head demands and the Heart refuses, when the Heart wants and the Head forbids — we get torn in the middle. The relentless "raven of thoughts" — that critical inner voice — is just a symptom of this war.

What Do We Do About It?

In Trilotherapy guidance, each figure gets the stage separately: we hear what troubles the Head, what hurts the Heart — and then perform inner mediation, bringing the two back to teamwork. And in parallel, most importantly: we wake the owner of the house. When the true self wakes up and takes the lead, the Head and the Heart calm down — like children whose parent finally came home.

In my practice it's focused and hands-on: you leave every session with a new understanding and tools to practice at home.